How do you stand your ground without being a bitch?
xXpNays0sHyXx asked:
I hate being a pushover. I just wanna be able to stand my ground w/out being a bitch. I don’t want ppl hating on me but at the same time, i don’t wanna let people treat me like crap tooo. any advice?
Bitch 69
I hate being a pushover. I just wanna be able to stand my ground w/out being a bitch. I don’t want ppl hating on me but at the same time, i don’t wanna let people treat me like crap tooo. any advice?
Bitch 69
Tags: Bitches, Crap, Ppl, Pushover
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Am 23. January 2009 um 23:01 Uhr
have confidence.
Am 25. January 2009 um 19:36 Uhr
Just say “No.”.
There’s nothing rude or angry about it, just say no.
Am 27. January 2009 um 03:31 Uhr
sometimes you need to be a ass to be respected i guess.
Am 27. January 2009 um 20:09 Uhr
Stand your ground girl! Who cares if people think youre being a bitch? Youre sticking up for YOU, and everyone does it so no one can really get mad. Maybe they shouldnt have said anything in the first place, just try not to get too out of hand.
Am 29. January 2009 um 00:56 Uhr
if your palninning on standing your ground make sure you have both feet on the ground that always helps
Am 1. February 2009 um 09:47 Uhr
you take them at what they are saying and you just stand there and tell them you are not taking any more of their mess or whatever and they will generally move around and leave that is all. you have to stand up for your rights persay ad that is how you do it be forceful
Am 1. February 2009 um 20:59 Uhr
There’s not really a way.
Besides, I’d rather be known as a a**hole than a pushover.
Am 5. February 2009 um 05:05 Uhr
Well you can’t let people walk over you, but you also can’t be overbearing and demanding to other people. I sometimes find it hard to determine the line inbetween these too. I think the major thing is to consider your feelings, while also considering others, and be tactful but make sure they understand that you mean business. Best of luck!
Am 6. February 2009 um 01:15 Uhr
best off standing your ground and askin them to put themselves in your shoes!
see what they say to that!
your better off standing your ground people will respect you more.
a pushover eventually gets left behind and only used when somebody wants something!
Am 9. February 2009 um 10:00 Uhr
Don’t worry about being a b*tch. If you aren’t hurting anyone’s feelings intentionally, then you are just acting out of self-preservation, not b*tchiness. The latter requires a nasty attitude, as well, and you don’t seem to have that.
Am 9. February 2009 um 15:56 Uhr
My advice would be not to be a jerk about things but be firm. When some one walks over you don’t just hall off and hit them tell them no, or give some back talk. But to get your point across you will need to be firm. I am a very outspoken person if I don’t like some one I will tell them, I am not saying be like me but put some meaning behind what you say don’t just take there abuse.
Am 10. February 2009 um 19:30 Uhr
Firstly you have to stop worrying about what everyone else is thinking of you.
If they don’t respect your space and your opinion they are not worth being friends with.
State what you have to say politely and firmly. The friends that matter will respect you for it.
Am 13. February 2009 um 12:32 Uhr
Just punch people who say anthing you don’t like. No questions just right hook.
Am 15. February 2009 um 03:38 Uhr
No hesitation, plenty of conviction, and never apologize for doing what you think is right. People respect respect that.
Am 18. February 2009 um 06:14 Uhr
My grandma used to say that it was good to have enemies, because it meant you were important enough to have them!
I was once a pushover, but let me be blunt. You cannot make EVERYONE like you.. pretty soon, some people will dislike you, and call you names, but that’s just a fact of life. By standing your ground on what’s important, you’ll reveal who you are and leave some other people out. It’s your job to sort the good friends from the bad friends, and you can only do that by sticking up for yourself.
To end this with another quote- “Morality is like art. It involves drawing a line somewhere.”
best of luck sweetheart!
Am 20. February 2009 um 13:30 Uhr
It is a fine line between a bitch and a pushover. I have the same issue. You need to say straight out that something bothers you when you feel wronged. Simply state the way it affects you and how you want to be treated or want this changed. When it is a work related problem, go to the boss, but make sure you have ideas on how it can be resolved as well. Nobody wants to hear a complainer unless they can help solve the problem.
Am 21. February 2009 um 15:26 Uhr
The trick is to be assertive, not aggressive. For example, someone is walking their dog past your house and lets him poop on your lawn. Aggressive behavior would be to run out there and yell at them, possibly give body language that indicates you’d like to fight. Assertive is to hand them a ziplock bag and point to the dumpster along with some statement about not liking to have to clean up after all the neighborhood dogs.
We are from a culture in which girls/women are expected to be perpetually “nice”, even at the expense of their own needs and wants. Boys are taught to fight for what they want. Assertive statements are the middle ground and much healthier for all invovled.
Am 24. February 2009 um 17:19 Uhr
be your self. fuk what anyone else thinks. but do stand your ground, if someone messes with you tell them ” do i bother you, no… then go play with your self and leave me alone dude.
Am 27. February 2009 um 01:57 Uhr
People will treat you the way you allow them too. If you don’t like the way they are tretaing you tell them. It isn’t wrong to stand up for yourself and you can do that without being mean, just be firm.
Am 27. February 2009 um 20:25 Uhr
just stand up for yourself and don’t worry about acting like a +++++….I was worried for years about not wanting to act like a “”"”"….I was constantly walked on for YEARS…Now, finally I stand my ground and people leave me alone…I am actually proud to be able to act like a “”"”"…I am no longer the little mouse…
Am 28. February 2009 um 15:23 Uhr
Use a mix of cynicism, intelligence, and a forceful voice. Most people who hate on others have IQs below room temperature and try to harass others to make themselves feel better.
Make a smart, insulting comment to them with a sly grin and stern voice and the idiots will come back with more insults that are so terrible they make themselves look like douches. Everyone will realize that too.
Am 1. March 2009 um 08:11 Uhr
If they can’t respect your opinions, they aren’t your friends. I have had this trouble before, and it is a very difficult problem. Talk to your friends about how you don;t think they respect you, and act in such a way to deserve respect. Try to find people who will treat you properly. You don’t have to break it off with the jerks, but finding a wider circle will remove your dependency on any one friend, so you can stand your ground from a strong point. You shouldn’t have to be a jerk to be respected, but you need to be willing to say no and be firm.
Am 4. March 2009 um 02:55 Uhr
there r ppl in this world of ours that don’t respect ppl unless they hold they ground no matter what.
Am 7. March 2009 um 00:14 Uhr
its not very hard and it is something that you must do NOW if not your spend the rest of your life the way somebody else wants you to live it, not the way you want to live!
Cut those strings girl! your no puppet!!!
Am 7. March 2009 um 15:40 Uhr
Always worrying about people think about you will never allow you to think for yourself. And then what? Your life is not going to be your own, it belongs to those people you are trying to please, some of them who don’t really have your best interests at heart. If people hate you because you stand up for yourself, they don’t belong in your life anyway. Now if someone calls me a *****, it runs off me like water off a duck.
Am 9. March 2009 um 19:45 Uhr
You can stand your ground without being a ***** by not being *****hy. State your point or refusal, or different opinion without being confrontational or aggressive (or apologetic ad don’t whine) and allow or accept that others have the same right. If you can’t agree just end it with a “yes I see you point” (you see it but not agree). If you are being pressured to do something or a response a “I’ll have to think about it (or check) and I”ll let you know.”
But different situations require different reactions and you are really the only one that knows. Best way to determine is to think how you would want others to be towards you or reject you etc and that will give you an idea on how to behave.
Am 11. March 2009 um 23:02 Uhr
(To every thing there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven )There are some people who you have to be a bitch to and some who will accept a nice no ask God for wisdom to know which ones tou have to yell at..I usually say no then if that dose not work I ask”what part of no do you not understand the N or the O”